Children can struggle with depression, too.
By Dr. Dobson.
QUESTION: Our school psychologist said she thinks our son is suffering from childhood depression. My goodness! The kid is only nine years old. Is it reasonable that this could be his problem?
DR. DOBSON: We used to believe that depression was exclusively an adult problem, but that understanding is changing. Now we’re seeing signs of serious despondency in children as young as five years old.
Symptoms of depression in an elementary school child may include general lethargy, a lack of interest in things that used to excite him or her, sleep disturbances, chewed finger nails, loss of appetite, and violent emotional outbursts. Other common reactions are stomach complaints and low tolerance to frustration of any kind.
New Tool to Diagnose Adolescent Depression.
[...]Eighty percent of the depression cases are readily treatable. But the numbers above state a different story. One possible reason could be improper diagnosis. Depression in adolescents can occur due stress associated with the normal maturation process. It can also occur as a result of a traumatic experience. It is however, difficult to diagnose depression in adolescents because it may manifest in several forms and can also be mistaken for normal teenage behavior.
Over the years, several different methods have been used to diagnose depression along with the physical examination. These include self-reports like the Center for Epidemiological Studies Depression Scale and Beck Depression Inventory and clinician reports like the Hamilton Depression Rating Scale and the Children’s Depression Rating Scale. These scales however, are not specific to adolescents and hence have been reported to have limited reliability in that age group. Also, these tests classify adolescents as either depressed or not depression and do not consider a substantial number of depressed teens with no apparent symptoms. Thus, some recently published studies have supported a dimensional model where depression is graded along a continuum from mild to severe[...]
If depression is a problem for your child, it is only symptomatic of something else that is bothering him. Help him or her verbalize feelings. Try to anticipate the explanation for sadness and lead the youngster into conversations that provide an opportunity to ventilate. Make yourself available to listen, without judging or belittling the feelings expressed. Simply being understood is soothing for children and adults, alike.
If the symptoms are severe or if they last more than two weeks, I urge you to take the advice of the school psychologist or seek professional help for your son. Prolonged depression can be destructive for human beings of any age and is especially dangerous to children.
QUESTION: As an advocate of spankings as a disciplinary tool, don’t you worry about the possibility that you might be contributing to the incidence of child abuse in this country?
DR. DOBSON: Yes, I do worry about that. One of my frustrations in teaching parents has been the difficulty in achieving a balance between permissiveness and oppression. The tendency is to drift toward one extreme or another. Let it never be said that I favor harshness of any kind with children. It can wound the spirit and inflict permanent scars on the psyche.
3 Ways of Helping Children Cope With Stress and Deal With Feelings.
[...]Life is not always as simple and easy for children as one may think. Children need to meet the harsh demands of school top on of their personal and social lives. In addition, many parents also send their children for supplementary classes for enrichment purposes and attempt to discover their children’s talents by having them engaged in cultural activities at the same time. Pressure from within the home and from people around contributes to the high levels of unnecessary stress that young children are facing today. As such, it is crucial that parents know the 3 ways of helping children cope with stress and deal with feelings.
The most basic thing to do to help your child cope with stress is to understand what stress actually is. Stress is our body’s way of reacting to specific events or changes in our lives that are taking place. Some children are brought up in an environment that encourages and guides him or her to deal with stress in a positive way. Thus, it is important that parents learn the skills to teach their children how to respond to stressful and tense situations in a more optimistic manner[...]
No subject distresses me more than the phenomenon of child abuse which is so prevalent in North America today. There are millions of families out there in which crimes against children are being committed day after day. It is hard to believe just how cruel some mothers and fathers can be to defenseless, wide-eyed kids who don’t understand why they are hated. I remember the terrible father who regularly wrapped his small son’s head in the sheet that the boy had wet the night before. Then he crammed the tot upside down into the toilet bowl for punishment.
I also think of the disturbed mother who cut out her child’s eyes with a razor blade. That little girl will be blind throughout her life, knowing that her own mother deprived her of sight!
Unthinkable acts like these are occurring every day in cities and towns around us. In fact, it is highly probable that a youngster living within a mile or two of your house is experiencing abuse in one manner or another.
Brian G. Fraser, attorney for the National Center for Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse and Neglect, has written: “Child abuse … once thought to be primarily a problem of the poor and downtrodden … occurs in every segment of society and may be the country’s leading cause of death in children.”
Children and Depression - What Parents Can Do.
[...]When thinking about childhood depression, bear in mind that younger children will usually develop more physical symptoms than older kids. This is because younger children tend to have less ability to express themselves as compared to older and more matured children.
If you wish to fight childhood depression, you ought to educate yourself on the issue. Speak with a professional counselor who has experience in this field and see what you can learn from him or her. The therapist will most likely have you bring the child in for several individual sessions to diagnose his condition[...]
Let me say with the strongest emphasis that aggressive, hard-nosed, “Mommie Dearest” kinds of discipline are destructive to kids and must not be tolerated. Given the scope of the tragedy we are facing, the last thing I want to do is to provide a rationalization and justification for it. I don’t believe in harsh discipline, even when it is well-intentioned.
Children must be given room to breathe and grow and love. But there are also harmful circumstances at the permissive end of the spectrum, and many parents fall into one trap in an earnest attempt to avoid the other.
(Dr. Dobson is founder and chairman of the board of the nonprofit organization Focus on the Family, Colorado Springs, CO 80995
(www.family.org). )Questions and answers are excerpted from “Solid Answers” and “Bringing Up Boys,” both published by Tyndale House.
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